Let’s be real, we all spend a little too much time worrying, and not enough time working on ways to improve our happiness, as well as the happiness of those people around us, and that needs to be changed! I’ve been compiling a list of things I think we all could stand to do a little more of to keep the positive in, and get the negative out of our lives.
Speak up. We all bite our tongues at times, which is good, don’t get me wrong. But the problem with biting our tongues, is that our opinions aren’t heard. Speaking out against a crowd can be difficult, and anxiety provoking, but the outcome is beyond worth it. You can open others eyes to a brand new way of thinking, and more often than not, you gain the respect of others, because you said what others were too afraid to say. Just because it’s slightly terrifying, doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do it, because you deserve to be heard. After all, we are the voices of the future!
Passion. We need more reasons to be passionate. If something excites you, and makes you feel a bundle of emotions when you talk about it, then do more of that! It’s so important to get excited or angry about different topics, whether its fashion, politics, or book outcomes, if it makes you feel something strongly, share your passion with others! More times than not, we ignore the topics we feel excited, angry, and sometimes furious about, just because we don’t want to annoy anyone with our passion. That’s why I say, it’s time to find others who feel passion in the same things. People who you can have conversations with in the middle of the night, about whatever you love, or alternatively, loath. It’s a great feeling to find others who relate to you and the things that make you feel, and I mean truly deeply feel. Find those people, and never let your passions die out.
Relaxation. I cannot stress how much we all need to practice relaxation more frequently. With the hustle and bustle of our busy lives, we often don’t realize how much stress we’re actually walking around with, until we’re near disaster. Between homework, projects, finals and work, we’ve got enough to make anyone want to rip their hair out. Now add in any additional stressors, such as family or friend troubles, and sports and you’re nearly ready to explode with stress overload. It is so unhealthy to be walking around with no stress relief what-so-ever. Whether you need to meditate, plan a mini vacation, or spend a day reading or socializing, please girl, for your mental health, take breaks! No one can function to their full capabilities with so much stress, 24/7. If you’re walking around stressed, you’re producing work that no doubt, you know wasn’t your best, and probably aren’t too proud of. I don’t know about you, but I take pride in the work I put forward, and I always want it to be a true representation of my potential, feelings, and passions. Just by taking breaks and reducing your stress in whatever way it may be, you’ll notice how much happier you feel. The even better thing about destressing is that the overwhelming, ‘worlds coming to an end’ feeling you once felt while receiving your third project due later next week, won’t feel so crushing. You’ll be able to put your best foot forward, and handle the situation like the lady boss you are!
Love. Now a day, we spend so much of our time comparing ourselves to the other young woman around us. We hear it in our everyday lives, and all of us do it. We all say, “I wish I had her curves, hair, nose…” as if we are not beautiful, ourselves. That just isn’t the case. I don’t care what you think you should change about yourself, I am telling you, that you are without a doubt in my mind, absolutely beautiful just the way you are. I think there’s a big difference between admiring someone’s beauty, and longing for their features, because it would make you more appealing, in your mind. Although I do believe if you find someone beautiful, you should tell them, because you never know how much someone needs to hear that. But it’s time to set a standard mindset as young woman that we are all beautiful, and we all have exquisite features, personal styles, and minds. We cannot let ourselves and the people around us forget how amazing and beautiful we all are, and we cannot let the next generation of girls grow up believing that they are not quite as magnificent as the next girl. There is no one else in the world who can compare to you, therefore, we should just quit wishing for new features and body shapes, and just embrace our natural beauty.
Now I know it takes time to improve our mindsets, or to put ourselves out there, or take a breath when there is already so much to be done. At first you may feel vulnerable, uncomfortable, and unproductive, but I can promise you that with a little practice and a lot of courage, these four lifestyle changes will ultimately help you to lead a happier, healthier, and more confident life, which is what we all deserve!